Are you unintentionally undermining your own communication?

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling unheard or unconvincing?

Maybe you noticed people’s eyes glazing over as you spoke, or sensed that your ideas weren’t landing the way you intended.

The frustrating truth is that many of us unknowingly weaken our own communication; diluting our message and undermining our authority.

But the good news is that it’s not always what we say, but how we say it. And sometimes, the smallest changes can make the biggest difference.

Here are just three to consider:

Overusing filler words

Words like um, like, and you know sneak into our speech when we’re nervous or buying time to think. These can make us appear uncertain or lacking authority so try pausing instead; silence is far more powerful than a stream of unnecessary words.

Apologetic or hesitant language

Phrases like “Sorry, but…”, “I just think…”, or “Does that make sense?” subtly undercut your confidence. Instead of, “I just wanted to check…”, try, “I’d like to check…”. Swap “Does that make sense?” for “What are your thoughts?”. Small shifts like these can help reinforce your credibility.

Neglecting the power of a strong finish

Ending a sentence with an upward inflection (as if asking a question) can make you sound unsure, even when you’re stating a fact. Be mindful of finishing your thoughts with conviction. This will help reinforce your authority and ensure your message is received with clarity.

Effective communication isn’t about saying more—it’s about saying things better.

By making a few intentional changes, you can ensure your words carry the impact they deserve.

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